Nothing Legitimizes a Protest Like a Counter-Protest

Please stop counter protesting.

I don’t care what issue were talking about. I don’t care what side of it you’re on. I don’t care how big or small it is. From the current Pro- vs anti-Trump insanity down to whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher, the only correct response to any protest is simply to witness the fact that it’s happening. Watch, listen, learn, marvel (quietly) at the abject stupidity of the protestors, whatever else you need to do is fine, but above all DO NOT COUNTER-PROTEST!!!!

Nothing says: “YOU’RE RIGHT TO PROTEST, PLEASE CONTINUE!!!” like an attempt to say “YOU’RE WRONG TO PROTEST, PLEASE STOP.”

Now, if you already agree with this, good for you. Please spread the word.

If you disagree, well, yeah…good luck with that. Hopefully, you’ll figure it out at some point.

Is It Possible You Are Correct, And Yet Just Suck At Explaining Why?

Are you tired of futile pseudo-debates with pompous armchair experts who think “research” is what they’re doing when they look shit up on the Internet?

Do you need a quick and dirty zinger that you can use to gracefully exit such a hopeless and depressing energy vacuum, while making clear your own commitment to understanding complex issues by investing in a sincere study of what the actual experts think?

If so, the next time you find your joie-de-vivre being threatened by some Dunning-Kruger deluded poser, try asking him* the following question: Is it possible that you are correct, and yet just suck at explaining why?

Example:

Poser: Coronavirus is a myth! BLOB BLOB BLOBBITY BLOB….!

Concerned Citizen: Hmmmm. Although I agree that, at least in principle, perhaps, in some remote alternate-factiverse that what you appear to be asserting certainly could be the case (mega-ultra-meta-hyper-hypothetically speaking, of course) I must nevertheless admit that after listening to you yammer endlessly on the subject for the past 10 months, I find your arguments persistently unpersuasive. Is it possible you are correct, and yet just suck at explaining why? How about we table this discussion while you take the next, say, year to improve your explaining skills? In the meantime, I’ll try to get by with what the actual experts think about it. Now, moving on to more productive topics, have you heard from Aunt Betty recently? I hear she’s got bunions, ouch!…

I hope that’s helpful!

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Notes

* Let’s face it, this is more of a him- than a her-problem. Toxic masculinity strikes again!

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On Disability and the Economics of Sympathy

This appears to be some sort of psychological law:

One can hope for sympathy to the extent that it seems inexpensive and expect antipathy to the extent that it promises to lower the apparent cost of sympathy.

Hope that’s useful!

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The Worst Mistake I Ever Made

I think probably the worst mistake I’ve ever made was to chronically imagine — over the course of decades — that my own anger would be perceived and understood by its diverse observers as rational and justified when rather to the contrary it has for the most part been construed as irrational and wholly unprovoked.

I can’t speak for anyone else in saying this, but I feel quite confident at this point in asserting that whenever I personally feel anger — or any of its siblings and cousins (frustration, annoyance, irritability, etc.) — it’s a safe bet that anyone who finds out about these feelings will judge me to be overreacting or out of line, perhaps a bit ridiculous.

At least in my own case, it seems clear that my own anger is only rarely seen as legitimate or taken seriously as a rational and valid communication of useful information regarding a problem that should be solved. As a direct consequence of this pattern, my own anger has rarely accomplished anything useful and has often contributed to the failure of many interpersonal relationships.

Conclusion: good rules (for me, at least, to follow) appear to be, in the first place, don’t get angry, and second, if I do get angry, keep it hidden till I calm down.


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